Joe Queenan had an interesting review of the movie Knocked up in the Guardian yesterday in which he made some good points about such comedies and the way that they portray relations between men and women or rather between beautiful women and slackers. Queenan argues that Knocked up and other movies, which match successful and gorgeous women with slobs with no ambition and no culture, are not only offensive, but also misogynistic. Sugary excerpt:
Thus, even though Knocked Up - like The 40 Year Old Virgin and all its other kin - focuses on immature, misogynist, porn-obsessed male losers who revel in one another's smelly, unhygienic company, there are apparently insights and laughs aplenty to be found in this tale of a loser ultimately saved by the love of a good woman - a good woman, naturally, endowed with a stunning rack.
There is, of course, another way of looking at this subject: that the new genre of romantic comedies are not really upbeat, coming-of-age motion pictures about young male schmucks who are saved by the love of a good woman, but heart-rending tragedies about beautiful young women who are doomed to spend the rest of their lives with juvenile, not especially good-looking dorks. […] Knocked Up stars Rogen, who wrote the script with Apatow, as an overweight, unemployed stoner who hits the big time, romance-wise, when he accidentally gets blonde bombshell Katherine Heigl pregnant. Knocked Up made quite an impression when it was released in the US, not only with the public (mostly young males) but with critics - who are almost all male - ostensibly because it was not explicitly idiotic like Talledega Nights or Anchorman, and because it purported to make a larger point. The point it purports to make is that men do not grow up until they have children, and maybe not even then. This will probably not come as a complete surprise to most of the women on this planet.
The other point that Knocked Up seems to make is that women, even the ones who work in television, exist for no other reason than to help men grow up, if necessary by having babies. As Denby notes, this is an idea that has been kicking around since the early Renaissance, when Dante Alighieri frantically sought salvation through the ministrations of his beloved Beatrice: men need women to inspire them to the loftiest creative and moral heights; otherwise they will fail miserably. But unlike Rogen, at least Dante had a job.
I’m less offended by movies such as Knocked up than Queenan because I have grown up with men boys such as Rogen all of my life and that I have ceased to take them seriously. I mean by that childish male fantasies have stopped to bug me since I have realized that I actually have a choice about whether to indulge them and about whether to allow myself to become a vehicle to help a man grow up or rather find himself. The truth is that men and women all have unreal, superficial, and crude fantasies about each other and that the difference once again is that in most cases, women have to bow and to accept to play along. To me, the real question is about so much about why slackers and slobs are getting the girl, but why men are obsessed with making love synonymous with submission for women. Knocked up and other movies, the beautiful woman love and submits by giving up her ideals because she loves the guy, In Sabrina and other movies where the poor and inadequate girl is in love with a stud, the ugly duckling becomes beautiful and does everything that she can to meet her man ideals. In other words, the message is that love, woman love is about submission, not so much about pleasing the man, but about letting him be the conqueror and accepting to be the woman who is hidden behind the great man. What is key is to learn is that fantasies, societal norms, whatever one learns about love is meaning for at the end of it as always there is the question of choice. Thus, I laugh wholeheartedly when I saw Knocked up because it is predictable, incredibly safe and empowering because I knew that I didn’t want to be the beauty, who ended up with the slacker.
On the same subject of Hollywood and of unsavory romantic comedies, Keith Stuart on the Guardian Game compared the portrayal of women in movies with the ones in video Games. Sugary excerpt:
The mainstream games industry usually takes its cue from movie trends, but here the two media have diverged. Games had their dark period ten years ago when the success of Lara Croft gave rise to a sudden plethora of female leads with breasts like beachballs and waists so tiny a baby could wrap its fingers round them. […]
If anything women are conspicuous by their absence. The big shooters like GRAW, Gears of War, COD, Halo and Medal of Honor have little room for them, pushing females into non-playable support roles. Story-sequence fodder. Bioshock makes an intriguing use of girls as part of a moral decision each player must make. Like the Final Girl in slasher flicks, gender is employed to trap the viewer into an emotive, protecting position. Perhaps this is why the female lead character of Heavenly Sword is dying. Games developers, in the vacuum caused by Lara-mania, are no longer confident or comfortable creating straightforward female leads. […] Games use gender differently to films. Films are largely about relationships, games are largely about action. In films, women are often defined negatively in contrast to, and through their relationships with, the affable male characters, but these dynamics don't exist in most games.
I just wonder which is better - objectification or ostracism?